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Exit from maternity

Exit from maternity

So far you have been dealing with the choice of motherhood, the elaboration of the details of the birth, but here is your baby was born and it is time to leave motherhood. Here are some important tips and things you need to know when you walk out the gates of the hospital and take your babies home.

What do you need to know about your baby on maternity leave?

Mother's stay in motherhood varies depending on the complications that occur at birth or not. Generally, however, after 3-7 days of maternity care, the mother and child are left to go home. But it is not advisable to leave before you know everything you need about yourself and your babies:

  • Find out the length and weight of the newborn at birth and when leaving the maternity ward
  • find out all the details about the baby's diet (if she was given milk other than the mother's milk, if there were problems in the baby's feeding, meal times, etc.);
  • find out what score Apgar got the baby at birth;
  • Ask your doctor or nurse to help you breastfeed faster and easier and what to do when your baby does not want to suck;
  • if the child showed an alarm signal or required resuscitation;
  • if the newborn received medical treatment and details related to them, possibly if he was given the vaccine against hepatitis B and B.C.G. and vitamin D3 (or D2);
  • if, while in the hospital, the child had infections and which (staphylococcal, respiratory, diarrhea, etc .;
  • if he has undergone the tests necessary for the detection of myxedema and / or phenylketonuria;
  • ask the doctor to provide you with a calendar of the following consultations of the child;
  • find out which vaccines were given and which are the next ones in the calendar.

What role does the father have when leaving the maternity ward?

  • It will ask the doctor and the pediatrician for advice regarding: the conditions that must be met by the mother and baby; the habits used in the care of the child at home; choosing the place that will become the child's room; the baby's diet and how the newborn and mother should behave.
  • Ask a close person (the most appropriate is the wife's mother) to help the young mother.
  • It will cancel the inappropriate and too frequent visits and make a plan for them.
  • will be responsible for the supply (market, pharmacy, etc.) and for solving the problems in the household (washing, cleaning, cooking, etc.).

Once home with babies, it is time for their integration into the family. The brothers, if any, will meet the new member of the family, and the rest of the members will have specific tasks delegated. It will not be easy for you, but with a well-planned and post-natal plan you will be able to cope with it with great patience.

Role and help of grandparents

Considering that the first month after birth is the most loaded of the mother's life, it becomes necessary and the presence of a third person besides the father and the medical assistant. The most suitable is the grandmother, because she is close to the child and family and has more experience than the others.

This help given to the children gives them a feeling that they are still useful, their life becoming more interesting and more satisfying. In addition, they provide you with a welcome respite.

Reception of the newborn by the brothers and sisters

After all the pregnancy you have prepared the children for the arrival of the new brother, it is time to meet them and put the plan into practice. For other children, the appearance of a brother or sister is a source of deep emotion, which he wants to enjoy with all his friends. If the newborn is of the same sex, the child feels superior to it, and if it is of a different sex it is filled with a fear of the unknown. It is very important for children to know that they are not abandoned and that they do not move on a lower plane with the emergence of another.

Baby's room

It is advisable for the baby to have a room of his own or only with his mother. If, however, he sleeps with both parents, the child will be offered a basket or crib placed in a lighted place away from current and moisture. Sugar needs to respect the program of sleep and nutrition, peace and uniformity.

The baby sits on its back or side (it has recently been proven that sleep on the belly is one of the causes of sudden death) and will be covered with a light or light cotton wool or cotton blanket.

The cap or cap is not necessary unless it is cold in the room and the sleeping bag can be used after 2 months of life.


It is advisable to postpone them about 4, 5 days after birth, no matter how well they are intended, because the mother and baby have to adapt to the home program, different from the maternity program. Moreover, the mother's psyche is labile and she is overloaded with a major extra burden.

The newborn should only be viewed from a distance, visitors are not allowed, not even the father on the first day, to take him in his arms, or even to touch him. Also the peace of mind should be maintained in the room where the mother and the baby are, especially during the baby's breastfeeding.

An old custom is for grandparents to give their grandchildren objects or family jewelry, and the husband to give his wife the jewelry. Thus, the bonds between generations are maintained and the feelings of affection between the two spouses are proved. Visitors are used to bringing flowers or objects needed for the baby (nipples, clothing, soaps, brushes, etc.).

The first days after coming from motherhood

After about 3 days after birth, if no problems have been encountered, the mother and the child are discharged and arrive in the environment most suited to adapting the child to the extrauterine area.

Coming back home has a lot of benefits for both you and your baby:

  • uniformity of the environment;
  • permanent connection between mother and child;
  • installation and regulation of milk secretion;
  • avoiding infections by more careful care of the baby, etc.

However, you have to be prepared that the first days, weeks and even months to be the hardest, because being a parent is not easy at all.

The family doctor should be alerted whenever there are signs that something is wrong with the little one and it is necessary for the baby to make regular consultations with the baby for:

  • establishing the state of health;
  • checking the motor and mental development;
  • weight checking;
  • administration of various vitamins;
  • vaccines etc.

Trust in the doctor is essential in the care of the baby!

The health of the child is above all else, so do not hesitate to ask the doctor what concerns you, even if it seems ridiculous and unimportant. Confidence in the doctor also represents the safety of your child, so you must choose one in which not only you have to rely on as it is the best to care for the baby, but you can contact without any embarrassment anytime need.

Child's book, what role does it play?

In this special booklet all the indications of the pediatric doctor and of the medical assistance, as well as the questions and concerns of the mother are noted.

On the cover of this booklet will be noted:

  • name and surname of the child;
  • date of birth;
  • the date of the last maternity examination;
  • how the pregnancy evolved;
  • the length and weight of the baby at birth;
  • Apgar score;
  • the name of the motherhood in which the birth took place;
  • date of administration of vaccines and vitamin D.

This booklet is useful because it records all the important events for the child and for the parents (observed progress: the first smile, the day when their teeth began to appear, when they first went, etc.; vaccines, vitamins administered, possible hospitalizations and health problems, doctor's recommendations, etc.).

The child's doctor should check it regularly, knowing that early action on the smallest sign of a child's illness can prevent his or her serious illness.

The role of the care assistant

This will provide the mother with the necessary tips for the installation of the child in the family, her feeding, the way of care, etc.

Apart from the medical advice, the care assistant will also deal with the teaching of the mothers on how to use the budget, how to make changes in the arrangement of the house, how to organize their work, etc. She will also demonstrate (where appropriate) various baby care operations and respond to the concerns of the young mother.

It should be borne in mind that the mother's body has undergone a sudden change with the birth and must therefore be given special attention to both the baby and themselves. There follows the so-called "tears of laziness", in which the mother is very sensitive and begins to cry from minor things. The role of the husband is very important, the father who has to understand the transformations in the mother's body and their consequences.

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